So…what is this “love,” exactly?

(Updated from the original Valentine’s Day post on my Main Instagram account @m.leigh_8)

This post requires some work from you…my reader. ❤

You can close your eyes if it helps you, but I want you think about the word: LOVE.

Think about a moment when you felt that word, truly, felt that word: LOVE.

What, where, when were you at this moment that brings you back to the word: LOVE?

What was happening?

Most importantly: Describe that feeling to yourself. What does the feeling…feel like?

“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy can be our teacher.” -Pema Chodron

I had an amazing experience having my cards read by my favorite reader Cally Nelson via Skype from her location – NYC. What resonated most with me was this idea that in relationships people may sacrifice emotional vulnerability and connection because of the questions that practicality put at the forefront.

It’s so much easier to give up on love because it doesn’t seem practical. That reasoning makes it a lot smoother of a transition into the next relationship…right? Not always. It’s never a good idea to ignore emotions and feelings especially not the ones that make you tingle in all of fibers your being…like love.

Not all emotions deserve attention at length and they don’t all deserve to be acted on. However, it’s vital to acknowledge that what you feel exists and that it’s valid, it matters, and nothing or no one else (not even practicality) should be suffocating those feelings with “reasons” to believe that they are wrong or irrational.

Opening your heart is a scary AF thing to do. You are volunteering to play a dangerous game and signing up to, at some point, feel the PAIN of that contact sport. But, think of all the times you’ve made it through before…you learned so much from that, didn’t you? So, as you are getting back in the game (or in the game, already) this time around, you have new plays, maybe more pads on, practicality is gliding on the surface (but, not at the forefront)…and love is growing, teaching, guiding you to victory.

So, keep in mind that love, when with the right person, is not complicated. Love is not confusing. There is no ambivalence. Love is not something that goes on “autopilot.” Like Netflix, it can’t chill in the background of your life while every once in a while you have to check in on it and make sure someone is still “watching.” Love is not just one more thing to add to your checklist for the day, it’s not white noise that clouds your head with, questions, concerns about the future, or problems that you feel you have to fix or solve because you think something just isn’t right.

So, when you answered the question before you began reading…what kind of feeling did you feel when you heard the word: LOVE? Was it warm, full-bodied, tingly, fluttering? Was it soft, sweet, gentle, fun? Was it exciting, fierce, easy? Was it slow, tender, smooth? Was it an “autopilot” kind of love?

When you find your right person, your twin flame, love will become the brightest fire that fuels your days and lights your nights. Love will lluminate the earth with passion and lust, allowing you to fully surrender to each day eagerly to begin anew with each other in the next.

Like myself, please don’t ever give up hope that you will find your true love. Your twin flame. Love lives everyday, all days. Open your heart, to all possibilities, close off practicalities, let your emotions bleed, and the fullest love will find its way to your soul.

Me // Photo by: Jeff Goldberg // Chicago, IL

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