I received some sad news a few weeks ago from one of my best friends: one of our mutual friends passed away, suddenly. That’s, truly, the worst news anyone can receive. Steve was an important person in my life because he was the first person I ever started telling my stories to. He was my first listener. Steve always anxiously awaited the trials and tribulations of what was/is the dramatic life events that keep my days interesting, laughing hysterically the whole way through. I remember at work he would always say, “Ohhh, Barone…You could write a book with this shit. I’ll be the first one to buy it.”
We never really know when it’s our time. It could be whenever. We never know when fate or the universe or God has decided that it will be our last day and we will take our last breath.
That’s something that some people fear.
I have a very difficult time with death: I have a hard time accepting it. (Relationships, pet dying, etc). I can definitely admit to being in denial on many occasions after important people in my life have died. When people leave my life (moving, one of my student’s graduating, etc.)…even that can be extremely difficult for me. But…trust me, my therapist earns a good chunk of change from this gal and death is always on the agenda as topic of discussion. HE’S WORKING ON IT.
My point is this: We really do have to live each day like it’s our last day because you never know when it will be.
What will you want to have done on your very last day?
Does that mean we have to do every single activity for your last day on Earth? Maybe!…Why not?
Another thing I think about is that…the “good ole days” will come to an end. Your “good ole days” aren’t going to last forever. Just like the “best days of your life” won’t.
Who will you want to have spent those days with?
Think about this: it’s up to you to make things last as long as you want them to. I think we have so many things we can do to prolong our happiness. We have some choice in the matter. If there are certain people or places in your life that make you happy…gravitate towards them! Keep them around for the good days…because you never know when you might have your last ones.
It’s not worth it to feel misery if you can help it. It’s not worth it to do things that will make the good days end sooner. I can do things to make them last longer by being around an environment with the people that make me the happiest in order to create those beautiful moments.
Yeah…those moments might look differently than they did when I was in my early twenties and they might look differently than when I was in high school; but that’s okay. I still appreciate and adore both sets of memories.
What matters out of this thought process I’m having right now is to keep in mind that we don’t have a long time on Earth. Some of us have longer than others; but, none of us have any idea what our timeline is. Don’t put yourself in a position where your best days are spent miserable because you’re not living each day as it is presented to you. You can’t go back, you can only move forward. One step at a time.
And before you know it, your time is up.
As for Steve, I hope books are cheap wherever you are…my manuscript is already written. 🖤